iz maminega dnevnika

Danes sem brala svoj telefon. Bolj natančno-svoje belezke na telefonu. dnevnik mi kar ne znese ves ćas pisati.
Kakorkoli že. Naletela sem na zapise brž po porodu. Koliko emocij! Veselje-seveda veselje. En tak sladek obcutek novih začetkov. Obenem pa tudi vse ostalo. Strah pred veliko odgovornostjo, ki jo prinaša s seboj. Huda občutljivost na vse nasvete in morda tudi povsem dobronamerne pobude. Utrujenost.
Eni rečejo mali otroci, male skrbi. Kar je vsekakor res. Obenem bi pa kot nova mama take najraje na gobec. Kot mami začetnici so ti tiste skrbi največ kar v tistem momentu zmoreš. In ne rabiš čisto nič več skrbi.
Vesela sem,ker sem si pustila čutiti vsa ta čustva. Materinstvo je lepo. Obenem pa ni pravljica.Niti reklama, kjer se vsi ves čas smejijo.

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oda mamam, ki so v službi

Rada sem “working mom”. To vsekakor ni brez izzivov. Ta vikend sem v soboto in nedeljo dopoldne preživela v službi. Danes sem imela pred službo še sestanek s starši. Pride dan, ko gre vse narobe, ko so starši sitni, otroci naporni, sodelavci tečni.

Nasploh pa je fino. Vesela sem, da lahko delam. Da lahko kažem hčerki zgled-da je pač treba delati. Vesela sem, da lahko hčerki pokažem, da če delaš nekaj kar te veseli, da delo sploh ni težko. Vesela sem, da ko sem z njo, sem res z njo. Predvsem pa sem vesela, da me ti otroci upočasnjujejo, me usmerjajo na tukaj in zdaj in delajo hvaležne za to kar imam.

Spomnim se ene ameriške mame. Rekla je, da je po treh mesecih komaj čakala, da gre spet v službo. Saj je imela rada otroke, a nekaj ji je manjkalo. Takrat sem mislila; “kako si drzne? Po samo treh mesecih bi šla že stran?” Sedaj vem, da ni slaba mama. Bila je zgolj iskrena, kar američani dostikrat so. Nekatere mame so rojene za to, da so zgolj mame in gospodinje. In ni nič narobe s tem. Druge rabimo še kak izziv. In ni prav tako nič narobe s tem.

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You’re a working mom. That very likely means you’ve left the house nearly every dayfeeling guilty about your decision to be a working mom. “Am I selfish for abandoning my child?” “Is it cruel to put my baby in day care every day of the week?” “Are all thestay-at-home moms right?” But in honor of Working Parents Day tomorrow, stop the second-guessing and pat yourself on the back for making a decision that you very likely already know is best for your family. Instead of being racked with senseless guilt, rejoice in these nine reasons to feel fantastic about being a working mom.

1.You Don’t Have to Be “Mom” All the Time

As much as you love the title and see it as the most important thing you could ever do, you also know you are more than just a mother. When you leave the house for work every day, it’s much easier to shift roles — and catch a break.

2.You’re Surprisingly Less Stressed

One of the biggest fears many women have about being a working mom is the added stress of balancing a full-time job and parenting. Numerous studies, however, report that working moms are not just happier than their stay-at-home counterparts, but they also show no increase in psychological distress. Women who have a child and then leave the workforce, on the other hand, experience major increases in stress and suffer higher rates of depression.

3.There’s Such a Thing as Spending Too Much Time With Your Kids, and Everyone Knows It

It’s true that stay-at-home moms log more hours with their children every day, but it turns out that quantity of time means nothing compared to the quality of the time spent. A recent large-scale study revealed that the sheer amount of time parents spend with kids has no bearing on their development. In fact, it could be doing more harm than good when the time isn’t meaningful and the parents aren’t engaged.

4.Your Partner Gets to Share the Heavy Lifting

Yes, in these modern times, we shouldn’t see a father’s role any differently than a mother’s, but it’s still the case that in more traditional families where a dad works out of the house and a mom stays home, the parenting responsibilities aren’t often divided equitably. But when you both have deadlines to hit and hours to clock, you naturally act more as a team.

5.

You See Day Care as a Pro, Not a Con

Whether you leave your kids at a day care center or with a nanny, you know that doing so helps teach your kids, among other benefits, how to socialize. While some parents are troubled by toddlers with severe separation anxiety, you can feel less guilty when yours are off and running — without even a kiss goodbye — the minute their babysitter shows up.

6.

Earning Your Own Income Brings Serious Perks

If you aren’t able to contribute financially, you might feel too guilty to ever get a manicure or go out to a lunch that doesn’t involve ordering from the counter. Sure, when you earn a salary, you still have to budget (raising kids isn’t cheap!), but you likely don’t feel any pangs of remorse before splurging on a nice dress . . . or three. Hey, you need to look good at your next board meeting!

7. You Get to Be a Great Role Model Without Really Trying

Studies have shown that working moms have a positive impact on their children’s eventual careers and finances. In particular, daughters of working moms completed more years of education, were more likely to be employed and in supervisory roles, and earned higher incomes than those who had a stay-at-home mom. So just by going to work, you can say you’re helping your kids find greater success later in life

8.You Have an Excuse to Look Nice

Many working moms, if left to their own devices at home, would never get out of their PJs. Having an office to go to gives you the perfect excuse to actually look — and feel — your best.

9.There’s Way Less Pressure on You to Have the Perfect Home

It’s not fair to assume that stay-at-home moms should also have the time (and energy) to keep the house in perfect order, but when you aren’t even at home for most of the workweek, the burden isn’t unfairly on you to ensure the floors are mopped and the countertops scrubbed.

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o starševstvu

Igralka pri seriji Modern family je zelo dobro rekla; Starševstvo je kot priprava rakete na izstrelitev. Pripravljaš jo leta in leta. Jo uriš v vseh spretnostih, ki jih bo rabila na pot. Če si jo dobro pripravil,se bo izstrelila v svet. In če si jo izuril še boljše bo našla spet pot nazaj domov k tebi 🙂
To si tudi sama želim 😉 da bo šla v svet..in se vrnila domov na nedeljsko kosilo.

p.s; če še ne gledate modern family-priporočam

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